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Posts Tagged ‘couples counseling’

Love Languages: How to Improve Communication in Relationships

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love languagesIn his book, The Five Love Languages, author Gary Chapman theorizes that people tend to naturally give love in the way that they prefer to receive love, and better communication between couples can be accomplished when one can demonstrate caring to the other person in the love language the recipient understands.… Read the rest →

How to Put a Positive Spin on Your Marriage

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Successful marriage

According to Newton, an object at rest will stay at rest unless acted on by an external force. How does this apply to a marriage? Once a spouse is firmly entrenched in a negative state of mind, it is quite difficult for them to move from it.… Read the rest →

You Are Not My Enemy

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by Grant Stenzel, MS LCPC

Sometimes in our sessions at Stenzel Clinical, it’s not unusual for us to ask couples to stand in front of each other and say this phrase:

“You are not my enemy.”

It’s not just a mantra but the beginning of trying to get each spouse to show greater fragility.… Read the rest →

The Three Year Twitch: How to keep your marriage from ending before it’s even begun (pt. 2)

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by Jen DuBos, MA LPC

We’ve talked about some causes of The Three year Twitch so you can spot the warning signs – now let’s talk about some strategies you and your spouse can do to limit insecurities and keep The Three Year Twitch to a minimum.… Read the rest →

Wanting A Good Thing Too Much

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by Eunia Lee, LCPC

The other night, I mistakenly started a difficult topic of conversation with my husband just before bedtime (common wisdom would say to avoid this).  Except I did not realize that it was a difficult topic until I saw my husband’s reaction. … Read the rest →

What Would Kenny Rogers Do?: A guide to better marital communication

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Anyone who has ever heard Kenny Rogers’ most famous song, “The Gambler,” knows the famous lyric:

You’ve got to know when to hold ‘em.
Know when to fold ‘em.
Know when to walk away.
Know when to run.

While I of course wouldn’t put it exactly that way in my sessions, I can appreciate the lesson as it applies to marital communication – pick your battles carefully.… Read the rest →